Ever since I can remember, people have always been telling me to enjoy being ‘young’, they’re the best days of your life and will go quickly etc… We’ve all heard the phrase ‘life’s too short’ right? I always listened to this advice, but I think I am just starting to feel it.
July 20th 2016, marked 2 years of being with my lovely boyfriend and I just can’t comprehend how quickly that time has gone. So much has happened, in what feels like such a short space of time. Facebook and Timehop also remind me daily, of previous life events, and I am always shocked at how far away in the past the events were. Then my calendar on my phone will notify me that it’s my birthday in less than 3 months, and I’m turning 20! I genuinely feel like my 18th was a few months ago!
Isn’t it incredible how a difficult week can feel like an eternity, but a week of happiness is over before you know it? I think it is true – time flies when you’re having fun. This reflection on how quickly life is moving reminds me of how precious every second of every day is, and the significance of every person I meet in my life.
I wanted to post this as to show how beneficial reflecting now and then can be. Firstly because it reminds you how far you have come and all the things you’ve pushed through (that at the time seemed impossible). Secondly, because it provides PERSPECTIVE. That boy you cried over, that exam you had, the ‘sickness’ you felt, all seemed like the worst thing in the world – at the time!
Reflecting on the past allows me to be a lot better at accepting. Accepting situations, feelings, events – life. When something triggers an emotion in me (usually worry!) I now use perspective and start to ask myself ‘will this matter next week, next month, next year?’ Obviously I am not suddenly carefree and void of all reactions; but when challenges occur, questioning the significance of them in the grand scheme of things, does help!
Learning to accept the past has become a major breakthrough for helping my anxiety. (I’m still trying to put it into practise – not always successfully). But when we accept that we can’t change what has happened, but we can try to change what happens next, it is reassuring and replaces worry with determination, hope and excitement for the future.
All this reflecting has provided me with this conclusion, which I wanted to share…
I can’t stop time from passing so quickly, but I AM going to make a greater effort to appreciate what I have in each moment….and If the saying ‘time flies when you’re having fun’ really is true, then I’d like to think that time flying along for me reflects how I (try to) live my life –having fun!